Why You’re Sabotaging Your Relationships
Why is it always you? Why do you keep ending up in the same painful cycles? If you’ve ever thought, Why me? Why does this always happen to me?, here’s the hard truth—you’re not a victim, you’re an active participant in your own story.
You sabotage your relationships when you ignore red flags, when you push aside your intuition, when you chase the “exciting” option instead of the right one. You mistake unpredictability for passion, and you confuse emotional instability with love. You’ve been conditioned to crave the wrong things, and until you rewire your mindset, you’ll keep choosing chaos disguised as connection.
If you feel repelled by stable, emotionally available men because they seem “boring,” that’s not your intuition—it’s your trauma talking. Your brain has been trained to associate love with adrenaline, uncertainty, and emotional highs and lows. But let’s be real—has that ever actually worked out for you?
Think about your home. Do you wake up every morning wondering if your house will still be standing? No. You trust it. It’s safe. It’s stable. And because of that, you can relax and focus on other areas of your life. Imagine if you lived in a house that might randomly explode—would you call that exciting? No, you’d call it a nightmare. So why do you treat relationships differently?
You need to reset your energy. You need to teach your brain that safety isn’t boring—it’s the foundation for you to thrive. Write down exactly what you want in a partner. No “maybe” qualities, no settling, no second-guessing. Be clear. Be intentional. And then? Stick to it.
If you’ve spent years being drawn to men who don’t cherish you, don’t worship you, don’t prioritize you, then you’re in your wounded feminine. Right now, you cannot trust your own attractions. If you feel butterflies around a man who is inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or makes you question where you stand, run. In fact, do the opposite of whatever your current instincts tell you.
And stop blaming toxic people for being toxic. That’s what they do. That’s what they are. You don’t get mad at a snake for biting—you just learn not to get close enough to let it happen. It’s time to take responsibility for your choices and step into the kind of energy that only attracts the right people.
And let’s be honest—your friends won’t tell you the truth. They’ll let you vent, they’ll agree with you, they’ll say what you want to hear, not what you need to hear. But deep down, you already know. The patterns are there. The answers have always been there.
So now, what are you going to do about it?
If you’re ready to break these cycles for good and step into the kind of love, life, and success that you actually deserve, work with me at modelpatty.com. It’s time to stop playing small and start choosing better.
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