Why you keep dating bad men

If you keep finding yourself in relationships with the wrong men, it’s not a coincidence.

It’s a pattern.

And the good news? Patterns can be broken.

In this post, I’ll share three reasons why you keep attracting toxic men—and what you need to do to finally attract the right one.

Reason #1: You’re Too Empathetic Toward the Wrong People

Having a big heart is beautiful. But misplaced empathy is dangerous.

• You make excuses for men who don’t deserve it.

• You see their “potential” instead of their reality.

• You prioritize their feelings while they disregard yours.

I used to do this too. A guy would take days to text me back, cancel plans last minute, or be inconsistent—but instead of seeing the truth, I’d justify his behavior.

🚩 “Maybe he’s just busy.”

🚩 “Maybe he’s just bad at texting.”

🚩 “I don’t want to play games, so I’ll just be patient.”

But guess what?

A man who truly wants you will never make you feel uncertain.

Men who are inconsistent and avoid commitment do not need your empathy.

They need to lose access to you.

👉 Solution: Match their energy. If they’re inconsistent, be unavailable. If they give you the bare minimum, give them nothing.

Stop being so understanding toward men who don’t even care how they make you feel.

Reason #2: You’re Too Naïve & Believe Words Over Actions

Toxic men say all the right things.

• “I’ve never met someone like you.”

• “I’ve been hurt before, but you’re different.”

• “I just need time, but I do care about you.”

And because you want to believe in love, you take these words as truth.

But words mean nothing without actions.

🚩 He tells you he wants to be with you but won’t commit.

🚩 He says he cares but disappears when you need him.

🚩 He acts like you’re his girlfriend in private but won’t claim you in public.

Stop believing in potential. Believe in patterns.

👉 Solution: Start trusting actions over words. If his behavior doesn’t align with his words, walk away.

Reason #3: You’re a People-Pleaser & Seek Validation

If you’re always:

• Being too accommodating

• Making yourself too available

• Trying to prove you’re “not like other girls”

You’re setting yourself up to be used.

Toxic men love women who overgive.

Why? Because they don’t have to put in effort. You’re doing all the work.

You’re showing up for them, but are they showing up for you?

👉 Solution: Stop trying to earn love. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. The right man will appreciate you without you having to overgive and overprove yourself.

How to Finally Attract the Right Man

To break the cycle of toxic relationships, you need to:

✅ Stop excusing bad behavior – If he’s inconsistent, it’s a red flag.

✅ Trust actions, not words – If he says one thing but does another, believe his actions.

✅ Drop the people-pleasing – The right man won’t need to be convinced to treat you right.

When you raise your standards, you’ll naturally stop attracting men who can’t meet them.

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Your future self will thank you. 💖

- Patty StayWell