He’s Laughing at You—Stop Letting It Happen
Let’s be real—he’s at home laughing at you right now. You gave him everything he wanted, and for the bare minimum that you asked for, he couldn’t even do that. And yet… you’re still available to him. That’s crazy.
It’s not your fault that he disrespected you in the past. But it is your responsibility to learn from it and move forward. You have to stop entertaining men who won’t meet your standards. You have to stop accepting the bare minimum and calling it love.
A real, masculine provider—a man who actually cherishes women—will show up for you. He will spoil you, not just with gifts, but with consistency, protection, and care. He will be there for you when you need him. He will listen to you. And most importantly, he will never be the reason you’re crying.
Red Flag #1: He Doesn’t Cherish Women
If a man doesn’t fundamentally respect and value women, he is dangerous to be around. And no, it doesn’t matter if it’s a boyfriend, a boss, or even your own father—if he doesn’t cherish women, you will never feel safe with him.
The easiest way to tell? Watch how he talks about women when he thinks you’re not paying attention.
• How does he speak about his mother and sisters?
• How does he talk about his exes?
• How does he act around his male friends? Does he engage in disrespectful talk about women when he thinks no one is watching?
Men like this know how to pretend when they want something. They’ll say all the right things in the beginning to get what they want from you. But the second they don’t need to impress you anymore, their true nature comes out.
If he talks down on women, dismisses their emotions, or constantly blames his “crazy ex,” he does not respect women. And if he doesn’t respect women, he will never respect you.
Red Flag #2: He Won’t Commit, But He Still Wants Access to You
He’ll sleep with you. He’ll take your energy. He’ll ask for all the benefits of a relationship—but when it comes to putting a label on it? Suddenly, he’s not ready.
He’ll say things like:
• “I’m just focusing on my career right now.”
• “I’m not looking for anything serious.”
• “I just need time to figure myself out.”
LIES. If he was really too focused on his career for a relationship, he wouldn’t be in your messages. He wouldn’t be taking you out. He wouldn’t be feeding you empty words while still expecting you to give him all of your time, energy, and intimacy.
Men will do the absolute bare minimum of what is required to keep you around. If he knows you’ll stay even when he’s inconsistent, he’ll stay inconsistent. If he knows you’ll tolerate being in limbo, he’ll keep you in limbo.
It’s up to you to require more. If he says he’s not ready for a relationship, believe him—and walk away. The right man will never put you in a position where you have to convince him to be with you.
Red Flag #3: He Makes Promises, Then Doesn’t Follow Through
If a man is willing to lie to your face, what do you think he’s doing behind your back?
Every time you let a man break his word and continue to give him your time, you teach him that you don’t value yourself.
• If he says he’ll call you and he doesn’t, but you still answer when he finally does—you just taught him that your time isn’t valuable.
• If he says he’ll make plans with you, but he “forgets” or waits until the last minute, and you still say yes—you just taught him that he doesn’t have to prioritize you.
Do you really think he doesn’t know what he’s doing? Do you really think he “forgot” to call? No. He just knew he didn’t have to. He knew that no matter how many times he didn’t show up for you, you’d still be available the second he wanted you again.
Raise Your Standards and Watch How Fast They Step Up
Men will always do the least amount of work required to get what they want. That’s why you have to decide what your standards are—and actually hold them.
Stop waiting for a man to decide you’re worth it. Stop begging for the bare minimum. Stop making excuses for their inconsistency. A real man won’t risk losing you because he knows you’re a rare woman.
The minute you start treating yourself like the prize, the right man will see it too.
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